“Family and Society/Identity and State”
The family is the basis of society, although the relationship between the two has become very complex and different structures and forms have been formed within families. Society has become a diverse group of families with different values and moral systems. But when we come back for history and the early stages, we see that families have created society in the utmost harmony. Society as itself was generally a small or medium-sized unified family. In the early stages and after the invention and discovery of modern tools or the advent of technology, societies grew gradually and if in the ancient world a city with several 100,000 people was the capital and center of civilization. Now there are cities of millions in the world that we have never heard of, and this is true for countries like China and India. These changes are not only in terms of population, but also in terms of quality. Neither views of relationships nor people have the same simple forms as in the old world. This has happened day after day and stage after stage until it reached our present stage.
We must say that there is no family in the world without problems. We can say that problems in the family are normal and if we deal with them wisely, they are an opportunity for the development of individuals in the family and the whole family of a social and religious structure for example, in a country like Afghanistan, the issue of headscarf and education is a major issue due to the political and socio-cultural situation. In a country like Kurdistan, the situation, although it has changed compared to the past, generally manifests itself within the circle of the old values of society and the faults of the streets, although because of this conflict, not all control and prevention is necessarily by the family center.
Crisis in this sense includes any action and choice that goes beyond the defined values and framework within the family. For example, a girl falls in love with a boy in the family. Because of their experience and age, parents know that this is a sensitive and even dangerous subject, so they first try to control and then suppress if the two people are not suitable for each other. However, the feelings of two people do not easily yield to these restrictions and eventually a complicated emotional relationship is formed. After a while, the two people are in crisis whether to marry each other or not.
At this stage, neither side’s family guidance may be helpful, as they say that because they are too close to the map, they do not see the right point, so parents lose their old role as guides, supervisors or advisors and family counseling as a wing of psychology for Services to families and solving their problems are institutionalized and play a role.
